In people that have experienced difficult childhoods though the inner child has a whole different meaning. It can be creating the opposite of joy and fun. It can be creating misery, struggle and sabotage.
The reason for this can be that in order to cope with the trauma or abuse that the person experienced as a child, a part of that person's energy will have separated from the rest of the being. That part will hold on to all of the programs and feelings of the abuse or difficulties and will be effectively frozen in time.
Sometimes this will happen over and over again, to the person at different ages, which means that instead of one inner child they will have many, all carrying different programs and emotions.
These parts need to be acknowledged and sometimes offered healing so that they can move on and be reintegrated with the rest of the person's being . When this is done the person will feel more present, have more energy, and feel lighter and happier.
So how can this be done?
If you suspect you have a wounded inner child you may want to take some quiet time to meditate. Imagine yourself in a room and invite that child to talk to you. Create a dialogue, ask what it is feeling, what it would like from you. How you can assist him/her.
Sometimes you may try this a few times before these parts start to make themselves known. They may have trust issues and be very cautious about communicating so be patient. This can be because that part may not be able to see the difference between you as an adult and the previous abusers. Through kindness and patience though he/she will know the difference and will start to trust you more.
These parts may request things of you. Or they may just want to be heard. As you build the relationship it will start to integrate with you more and more, and things in your life that were previously difficult, will start to become easier.
Sometimes though doing this on you're own can feel overwhelming and confusing. Especially if you have many parts that need assistance and all have point of view about one another. If that is the case and you would like me to assist, you can book an appointment here.
How much greater can your life be?