Perhaps its a partner, money, or a standard of living. Perhaps you are unwilling to lose yourself.
When we are unwilling to lose something we end up being controlled by that thing. We no longer have total choice because we choose after eliminating choices based on the fear of loss.
What if by being willing to lose everything you could have anything?
Take for example a fear of losing yourself. What self are you afraid of losing? A defined version of you from the past?
What if you gave up the definition of you, you could then actually start to be you?